Everything a man is or is not today is based on his relationship with or without his father. Now don’t get me wrong. A strong woman is very capable of raising a good son but there are qualities a good father will poses that only he can provide.
I once heard a saying that all a son has to do to hurt his father is to become a failure. Many sons have inadvertently / subconsciously done just that to get back at their fathers for not being there for them. How sad is that? But think about it, it makes perfect sense to continue that negative disfunctional legacy. The passing of the baton sort of speak…
When a father is no longer present in a young mans life it actually takes the collective efforts of many honorable dedicated men to make up for it. I myself was raised by a step father from the age of 6 – 16 who never really wanted much to do with me. I just came along with my mother as a package deal. He was caught cheating on her and kicked out. From there I spent the next 10 years acting out and getting into trouble until I met a man {My Shihan} and studied karate for the next 4 years. In that time I was surrounded by men of integrity where I learned self discipline, honor, and the rewards for my hard work and efforts.
I have worked with many men who have carried this father baggage on their shoulders well into their 40’ – 50’s & even 60’s and I’m here to tell you that it is never too late to get clean with your father. Even if he has passed on.
Are you successful in your life? Are you the man you always wanted to be? Are you clean with your father?
One Life, One Shot. Make it Count!
J. R. Ferullo