The following is the definition of a Masculine relationship:
You have probably heard the phrase before but never fully understood what it means. I will give you a hint: It’s the opposite of a feminine relationship.
“The ability to speak openly & honestly Man to Man on the spot”
Sounds simple right? Allow me to explain: When two men meet up and are having a conversation and one man throws what we will call a little “dig” {insult} at the other man AND the other man says nothing at the time, yet stews about it on his ride home… Well guess what? That’s a feminine relationship. But when two men are conversing and the same thing happens the man on the receiving end of that little dig IMMEDIATELY says “What the hell is that suppose to mean?” and holds the other man accountable for his words, well that my friend is a good example of a Masculine relationship. Get it?
The Clean Up: So how do you hold another man accountable for his words? It’s a 3 step process and I would like you to try it on for size the next time something like this happens to you.
- “This is what you said” Stick to just what he said or did but just the facts without any story. If the facts are accurate they are undebatable.
- “This is how it made me feel” Say what you felt, not what you think. If your feelings are genuine the other man will feel it.
- “This is what I need from you” What you are asking for here is something that will enable you to forget & forgive so that it never comes up again in conversation. Never! A peace offering if you will.
Stick to your guns on the spot and your mind will have far less of those BS stories running around in there that you keep making up about other people & you will sleep better at night as well.
One Life, One Shot. Make it Count!
J. R. Ferullo