The following are just some simple basics that I believe most men should posses in order to take care of themselves & their families. 

• The ability to change a flat tire on their own.
• Start a good clean burning campfire with matches.
• Defend himself & his family. Both physically & verbally.
• The ability to say “No” powerfully.
• The use of basic power tools.
• How to properly approach / meet women with confidence & respect.
• Cook a great meal!
• Cut down a tree without killing themselves or anybody else.
• How to properly handle firearms.
• Have some F’n Fun!

So I could on & on about the countless times I have witness grown men throwing punches like little girls and trying to light logs on fire with a lighter and calling me up asking how to change a flat tire & so on… I have some great funny & sad stories regarding the list above, but will refrain. For now!

Take a good look at the list above. Are you able to check off a “yes” next to each one? Most of them? Some of them? What I did not learn from my step-father I learned from always being in the company of “My Boys” { the pack of kids I grew up with} or by having strong masculine relationships with other men. Did or do you have any of that? Have you isolated yourself? Guess what? If your reading this its probably time for you to learn some new skills and get back in the big game called LIFE?

One Life, One Shot. Make it Count!

          J. R. Ferullo

All Men are born the same just like car engines. We all need air to breath & fuel to run on. As we grow older, we may idle at a different RPM and depending upon the miles we have accumulated we start to run very differently. Some of us have traveled pretty rough roads, others have had their paths paved very well for them, while others are just racing in one large circle going round & round without any change whatsoever and slowly losing themselves.

How we take care of ourselves will dictate how much longer we will remain on the road, our idle RPM & top speed.

The golden rule to a longer lasting engine is to keep changing the oil. The better oil you use, the better it will run.

My programs are a good well-deserved visit to the shop. I will start with a good diagnostic, run a couple quick tests, begin with a tune up & complete with an oil change for the mind, body and spirit. From the inside out. Where it counts! Now you are ready for another 100,000 miles of whatever kind of road you want to travel.

When men come together and observe how much alike they are that’s when healing is impactful. We tend to think of our problems as unique or special. We will always isolate ourselves when we do that, and it is extremely difficult to heal or improve on our own. Been there, tried that. Failed!

Are you tired of being Sick & Tired?  Make the call today.

You Have One Shot at Life, Make it Count!

This is to the men out there who have been married for more than 10 years and are “Miserable in their Marriage” So let me see if I can guess the tune you have been singing for a while now: 1) Nobody around here appreciates or understands me, I just pay for stuff. 2) The thrill is gone, sex ended years ago! 3) I don’t get any respect, my wife talks down to me. Sound familiar? Well guess what, you are not alone. That’s the norm for the majority of married men in this country. Unfortunately a lot of you seek some other form of satisfaction thru a vice. Like drinking, gambling, strip clubs or even getting a girlfriend on the side. Now that’s a powder keg just waiting to explode.

Where do you think it all went wrong for you? Go back to that day on the alter when you were taking your vows. What did your future look like then? What were your expectations? Let me clear up a BIG misconception. Taking care of your family is NOT your life’s purpose. It is your responsibility! You are responsible for all your actions. Responsible for where you live, how you live, impregnating your wife, your children, your debt & so on… Oh, and yeah, your happiness. Stop looking for others in your household to make you feel more complete. That’s not their job, it is yours!!

Now discovering your life’s purpose is a whole other story in itself. Lets just stick with cleaning up this so called mess you feel like you are in now and you can move on to that later. Remember this: You are the Captain of this ship. You direct the course in which you are embarking. Your Wife manages the crew {details} If you hold steady on the right course and don’t micro-manage HER duties, you will both get along a hell of a lot better.

There are actions you can take to turn most, if not all of this around. Now I understand that as time goes on people can grow apart. One person matures while the other wants to stay right where they are. Preferences change, tastes change, and life changes you! I get it, but like I said earlier: You have a responsibility towards your children and they come first! So if you cant save your marriage, save your children for God’s sake. {probably from what you went through} Then you can split up after that.

So what can you do now? First off, start talking to other men who are married and share what you are going thru. Do you have a best friend? Start meeting up for dinners, golf, bowling, shoot some pool. Just start talking about it. Putting yourself on that island called “Nobody understands me” is a damnation to hell. All you are doing is making yourself right & everybody else wrong. Guess what? NOTHING CHANGES!! Oh, and if you don’t have a best friend, why not? What the hell happened there?

Next get a good clean hobby. Get back to the interests you had when you were younger, perhaps much younger, before life started to tarnish over your clean youthful shine. The best thing you can do for you and your loved ones is to bring back a sense of adventure. Start with yourself and then spread that adventure to everyone in your household. They will all love you for it. It lifts the spirit, recharges the soul & connects you to one another. Never fails. Lastly, start dating your wife again. Get the hell out of the house. Talk to her like you really want to get into her pants. Remember that???

If you don’t feel like you have the resources to accomplish this alone or if you have already destroyed your household and are going thru a divorce then sign up on our waiting list. You will be contacted the next time around to participate in a learning adventure with a Band of Brothers who are going thru similar struggles. You will be glad that you did.

One Life, One Shot. Make it Count!

          J. R. Ferullo

As soon as most people hear that saying or anything to do with faith, they immediately link it to God or religion. Well I’m hear to talk about another kind of faith. “Faith in Yourself”

Now I ask you to think about a time in your life when you accomplished something that to this day your still not sure how you did it? Well that my friend is called “Faith in Action” and that occurs when the following happens:

• You first make up your mind what you want to achieve.
• You start moving forward and taking actions in that direction {and here’s the tough part} without knowing / having all the answers.

Sounds simple right? Not really. Most men usually allow the following get in their way: a) I need to finish up this other thing first b) I need to have everything figured out first. c) I need to have all my ducks lined up in a row before I can begin. d) I don’t have the time or money to begin. Sound familiar? That last one is typically the most common.

You will never have enough time or money to begin a new venture, especially a self improvement adventure! Why? Because your Ego wants to stay exactly where it is. Where it is most comfortable. Where nothing changes, especially you. Ever notice every time you attempt some new kind of self improvement be it a diet, going to the gym, higher form of education, that life just seems to throw everything at you all at once to prevent it? Its not by coincidence, its by design. Your ego’s design.

There is a way however to combat that. First make a strong verbal commitment to others or a written commitment to yourself. Or both! Signed & sealed. You will then be moving forward in Faith as opposed to Fear. Faith in your ability to get the job done. Faith in the knowledge you have already acquired, Faith in a higher purpose. Faith in yourself.

Its time you moved forward in life based on faith and not fear. How are you operating now? What influenced your last major decision?

One Life, One Shot. Make it Count!

  J. R. Ferullo